Re- Define your ‘Independent Woman’

 Heya, I am back pretty soon this time

Just because I stepped out of my cocoon today, as it was Sunday and really turned out to be a fun day for me because I learned a little more about human behavior, and you know I write when I observe and not simply a diary entry of my day with my relatives.

People out there have a different image about who the independent women are, and of course, it varies. 

But there is one thing common, everybody, who loves them, feels they are good because they can handle anything and literally everything, they will be good for a family, they will support you when you will be tired of trying, they will be your 'GO TO' person, they will handle the emergency calls alone, they will earn for the family, they are ambitious, etc., etc., and so it’s good to marry a woman who fits into their definition of ‘independent Woman’

But only a few people know and promise what exactly the struggle is and what that independent woman needs over what they need from her

We know we can handle your family and your downfalls graciously, without you getting a hint how tired we are after a day at work, but why not people understand that we are human as well.

Being Independent is NOT at all about going emotionless

Yes we shatter, yes we cry a lot like a kindergarten baby, yes we lose our way to the right path at times, and yes we feel like quitting too, and you feel we are good for you/your family because you have never been introduced to this side of ours.

We are making our self-strong because we know the world is full of opportunistic people, and that’s why we have learned how not to let our scream escape our room at night and sometimes yes, we choke ourselves with pillows too, because the moment our cry will go to those hunters outside, there will be another trouble welcoming us on our way.

Yes, An Independent woman is one who is looking out for her needs by herself, who is achieving everything on her own, handling every kind of soul around, failing and falling but still trying hard.

And it’s not one who is emotionless, one who will break the family or relations around because she doesn’t know how to adjust, she can adjust, trust me, if she knows you are not stopping her from growing, and maybe she will sacrifice her dreams too for the family when needed and with love, she will do that, only if the environment around her will be nurturing enough.

We have not made our self-strong so that we can support somebody’s family in the future. We will support as well, but your mentality should change, you only love us because you know we are capable of everything.

Why not love us for being in our support? Why not marry us for providing one shoulder to cry upon when the world outside is scaring us? Why not be with us, to make us believe yes, we have achieved a lot and now it’s time to take a break and breathe, because it’s okay to be weak at times, after all, we are humans.

 You know, we are done trying, and yes, we say we don't need anyone because we know that people want us only for their good and not for supporting and loving us for what we have been through while being tagged as an Independent woman in the society.

We have different attitudes and that's important for us to carry, and it's difficult for us to trust everyone who comes up with words of care because we believe in actions more than words.

If there is any such woman in your circle, try to understand them. They may act harshly with you for once, but the moment you will understand why they are so, you will know they are right.

For once, just love us for what you have to offer and not what you want from us.

Think about it, I have just given you a good feed to your mind for the day.

Hope I made sense to you