Let's Not Fix Each Other

 

These heavy rains here in my city finally motivated me to write this one. Little bit nostalgia, little bit philosophy, and practical approach are there in this one. 

A few months back I received a message on my cell phone from Xyz who was trying to convince me to fix the relationship with someone I left 2 years ago, as they were not doing well, which basically was to leave everything, your dreams, or at least put a pause on to what I am living and what I am planning and to experience again what I was experiencing 2 years back, which in a nutshell gonna waste my efforts of those 2 years, I was away and healing. 

Well, no contact for 2 years and suddenly you are the culprit to be blamed for everything and asked to fix the things up. Really? I am no longer that good version of me, which maybe I was 2 years ago, I am more of a practical person who is least bothered by the society and constant chattering of people around, even if they are shouting loud on speakers.  I believe in self-care more than care for others, call me selfish, but someday you gonna be here in my shoes as well. The sooner the better.

Well, we have been fixing people every now and then, sometimes listening to them and helping them to come out of the situations which they are experiencing, and are bothered about it. Fixing each other is just okay, till the time you don't lose yourself in the process. 

We are on this planet, alive to experience life which along with happiness and surprises, also gifting us some sorrow and some tears to shed. When we are fixing each other, we are trying to take away that experience of Life, from them, we are taking away their capability to deal with the situation and we are living a part of their life as well. That's why sometimes we feel burdened.

Philosophical? Right? Let, it be. When we are fixing each other sometimes we overlook our own worries and drain out ourselves for the worry of others. Life has given everybody the experience which we can best handle, and so we overlook the problem given to us for our capabilities, instead try to fix other's dilemmas or worries. 

In the process of fixing the other, we forget that we have our own priorities to set, our own ambitions to fulfill, and we get lost in the path of our lives, which takes away a little experience for which we are here, surviving. 

For that message received, what would have happened if I would have let go of the things because of which I have left the relationship 2 years ago? is letting go, promising me the best of what I was expecting from them? or will 'letting go' would have not repeated the history? We realize the importance of each other only when they are gone, but here I got no positive vibes or anything that will benefit me? so why bother? I am not here to fix them, or to fix anyone, I am here to experience my life, be it a mess, at least I am creating it and taking the full responsibility, why give other's an opportunity to create a mess for you when you are yourself capable enough? 😆

Do you realize, I have posted a see-saw picture with this post? That goes well with my theme of this blog. when we are trying to fix the other, we are actually planning worst for ourselves, and sooner you will hit the floor if you will try to help the other, beyond the limit because he himself has to manage his weight in order to protect himself from touching the ground. Balancing is the key, in the see-saw, because of weights on the two sides, which is just like our worries,  but weights also help the players from hitting the ground, and so our worries and sorrows are also protecting and helping us to become the best version of ourselves.

So, Do NOT Fix Each other, let them experience and live a part of their life, and don't try to take that away from them. And even if you are fixing someone, try not to lose yourself in the process. Do NOT leave your ambitions, or do not let your journey get wasted for anyone around, the broken will fix themselves, even without you, so just learn to fix yourself first. 

Help them, but don't try to be the magician for them, guide them, counsel them but also leave them.