The Choice

We have been making choices for almost everything in our life, well it's good that we have options, and we are able to choose, but does it apply to even relationships with people around? 

All of us our having two kinds of relationship, one that is related by blood and the other that we choose ourselves. I will not write about blood relationships because people value blood relationships more as compared to what relations they make themselves, of course considering some exceptions as well.

We have so many friends around, friends for a movie, friends to chit chat, friends to meet, friends to have emotional connect with, etc, sometimes even outside this friendship zone, we give the relationship a name, a younger sister, elder sister, brother, dad-like figure, etc. It's out of the emotions that we feel for them, we have some memories of them, we have some heart to heart connection and so we give them a name. 

But what happens eventually? The relations that we have made, we break them too. We have forgotten how to maintain a relationship, how to fight for a relationship, instead, we fight with each other. In any argument between two people, none of them will try to understand, they will argue, put each other down, doesn't care about any moment spent together, any feeling of thankfulness, to the extent that beyond which it can't be amended. No sorries will work, no casual letting go will hold meaning and sometimes they don't even fight for a relation, just because we have options, we chose the easy way out. 

We have 5 friends, what if one is getting upset? there is no need to try and figure out and make it work, instead, we look for 4 left, well its not a math class choosing more than and less than a figure, but it's happening, just because we have options and we have the choice to let them go. 

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How hard we try to make our blood relationship work? If your sister will say something to you, will you not fight? or will you just say, its the end of our relationship? Of course, we try hard to make our blood relations work, so why not that same approach with relations that are not blood-related but are important to us? why we feel, it's against my self-respect, if we happen to say sorry and get the person back in our life? 

 Whenever I and my elder sister used to fight, the only approach she took every time was not to talk, and I always used to complain my mom, what approach is this? she can fight with me, but what is it that we will not even talk now. if we will not converse about it, how the hell it will get solved? It's good to fight, to argue, to understand but to a certain limit, and its a better option than silence. 

We don't have to make choice there, we have to try and get them back in our life, we don't have to let them go easily, we have to fight for them, with them to make them understand and continue your bond of friendship or any relation. 

But, unfortunately, most of us, are letting people go easily just because we have options. Of course, our self-respect is important, but if both the people will understand it will definitely work, we should not be having an option that just because I choose this relation, I can end it anyway, anyhow, just like I want. Why?

Don't we have any credibility for our relationships, nay respect, any attachment, are we just calling people FRIENDS for the sake of calling them, are we just tagging someone ' sister' just for the sake of it. 

It's all about willingness, to make things work, to get people back, not letting them go, because when you have a strong will, you make things work and when you don't, you set it free. So, don't end beautiful relations just like that, try hard for them too, just because you chose them yourself, they should be more precious, your choice of choosing them should be precious. Think of the time, when you build a bond with them, think what you liked in them.